Mandi met me last night at the door of her hotel room in a tight black mini dress and black suede boots that went past her knees. Minutes later she teased me, “I’ll show you mine if you show me yours!” She seductively stripped out of her clothes, making me throb. Some fun on the bed followed, then she positioned herself by bending over the desk.
We unapologetically committed our sins behind closed drapes and shut doors. Gratifying the flesh inside a 14th floor hotel room. Away from prying eyes.
My position in the church forces me to be discreet about my sexual life. As a single minister, I publicly committed to sexual abstinence before marriage.
Which means I have to use the utmost discretion.
“Si non caste, tamen caute.”
Adalbert of Hamburg, medieval archbishop to his clerics
In one recent online article, the author extols the virtue of purity as not just an intrinsic good but as “prudent” in the digital age. “Almost anything we do on a computer or cell phone, no matter how embarrassing or sensitive, leaves an exploitable record that is difficult to expunge.” The very real danger of exposure recommends chastity.
That’s an ideal solution. But as the good archbishop said, “If you can’t be chaste….”
Outside of my brief (and admittedly very indiscreet) relationship with the Deaconess, I’ve avoided becoming entangled with a woman from my parish. (Although Heidi, with her tight jeans that reveal the contours of her smackable ass, is testing my self-discipline.) One of the advantages of hiring reputable “professionals” is that both parties have an incentive to discreetly arrange the transaction and protect their privacy. “High-basic-quality-escorts will show up on time, match their advertised description, provide the agreed-upon services at the advertised price, be discreet, and generally act in a manner respectful of their client’s privacy and safety,” writes one scholar. Both agencies and independent escorts will screen and verify their clients, treating the received personal information as confidential. “Tina” at a local agency, for instance, knows that I work at a church, but because her business traffics in the keeping of secrets, it is in her interest to not disclose such information.
This is not to discount the very real risks I take. Still, given the alternative, I strive to minimize them. A classmate once proffered these words of wisdom: “You can be smart or you can be celibate.”
Lutheran Guilt 